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Busy Day!

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I sit here in my chair in Squishy’s play room. We lost track of time and took a late nap. He woke enough for me put him on the boob. He ate and then passed again.

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I think he is out for the count. Dang it! LoL. He isn’t in his fitted and wool cover, long sleeve onesie, or sleep sack…. Wait hold that thought he might be stirring. … maybe? … Dang it, I have to pee.

I am going to try something new for my own sake. A list of what I am thankful for :
– My awesome husband
– My sweet Squish
– Being able to breast feed my son
– My husband’s job
– Being able to be a stay at home mom
– Money to afford organic fresh foods
– The knowledge to make healthy meals for my family
– My Vita mix and Excalibur
– This beautiful home
– Not having to move for three years
– I am alive
– My health
– My creativity
– That my husband still isn’t on sea duty
– My best friend Stephanie S.
– My other friends scattered across the world
– My cat and dog
– My car
– I got the beautiful natural birth that I wanted and I ROCKED IT!!!
– I have AC

OK … the urge to pee has become too much. Time to risk waking the Squish.

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International Women’s Day

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I am bad at following holidays that are not national and usually lead to my husband having the day off, so I did not realize that it was International Women’s Day until the day was almost over. I would like to share a few of my views and my ironic day I had today.

First, my ironic story. My story started on Monday night. I got an uncomfortable pain in my lower right abdomen. I have gone off my birth control because I don’t want to be putting chemicals in my body that I don’t know what they are and because my husband and I would like to start trying for a baby, soon. I called my mother to ask if she had ever experienced pain during ovulation, and she said she had. I thought it was normal, so I took a Midol (it was really uncomfortable and I haven’t researched natural pain relievers yet) and went to bed with my heating pad.

The next day, the pain was really bad and I felt sick to my stomach. I texted my mom to see if she was ever nauseous and she said no and that I should go see a doctor. By the time I got home from my class, I was in even more pain and called the Nurse Triage Line that the Navy provides us after clinic hours. The nurse determined that I should go to the ER.

We spent three, almost four, hours in the ER. I was seen by two female nurses and a female doctor. They all thought it was my appendix. They decided to give me a CT Scan. They did a pregnancy test and it came back negative, but I still had questions and was told by one of the nurses that if I was pregnant, then it would have shown up, so I did the CT Scan despite having a bad feeling about it. Later, I asked the doctor who told me that it was possible for me to have a fertilized egg and not show up pregnant because a woman is not considered pregnant until a certain hormone shows up in her blood stream. That made me quite mad because I could have subjected our possible baby to radiation.

The radiation wasn’t actually necessary because the test resulted that my appendix was fine and that I have 2.3cm cyst on my ovary, which is detectable by an ultrasound. I was told by the ER doctor to follow up with an OB-GYN and released. I asked a few questions, but her answers were really vague and left me worrying.

The next morning, I tried to call my Primary Care Provider (Navy Speak for Primary Doctor, though sometimes our primary care providers are Nurse Practitioners), only to find out that my local Navy health clinic was in a state of emergency because their electricity had gone out, which had caused a whole boat-load of other problems. They weren’t giving out referrals for anything other than Urgent Care and I got the run-around a few times. It left me feeling frustrated and even more alienated from my body. I was finally told to call back the next day and they would get me a referral.

Today, I woke up in extreme pain. I could not stand, walk, sit or even lay down. Everything hurt and I felt like I was dying. After a few phone calls trying to get everyone to play nice, I was finally able to schedule an appointment with an OB-GYN.

I had my loving and supportive husband drive me to my appointment. My appointment was with a male doctor, who explained everything to me, and guess what was the final diagnosis. I’m ovulating! Eight years of being on the pill had alienated me from my ovaries so much that I didn’t recognize the pain (in my defense, I was still going through puberty when I was put on the pill, so I didn’t fully understand my body then).  I am one of the few women that experience severe pain during ovulation. Information that, if the ER doctor would have spent a little more time explaining to me, I wouldn’t have been so scared and freaked out (I have a huge fear of the unknown). Now that I know what the pain is, I can bear it a little easier. I know it is somewhat natural and part of the process for me to have a baby someday.

Update: Friday 9-Mar-12 – I am feeling a lot better! I am still a little sore in my right side, but I am able to function now.

Now for two of my views on Women’s Rights:

1. I believe women should have the right to make, on their own, any choices involving procreation. I am for birth control for the reason that birth control is often used to treat a variety of medical conditions involving the female body. I will probably go back on the pill after we have children, just to be functional when I ovulate, until I qualify to get a hysterectomy.  Though I do believe that if a couple is married, the father/husband should be consulted before an abortion is performed.

2. It frustrates me that, with all of the progress that we have made for women’s rights, it is often looked down upon when a woman chooses to stay home and take care of the household, possibly being a mother as well. I am a stay at home wife and I am often looked down upon by many people. I am a Home Consultant for Thirty-One Gifts, but my main priority (when I’m not in pain) is taking care of our home and my husband. I wish, with the progression of women’s rights, we could have the right to choose to stay at home or to go to work without judgment either way.

Well, I hope you enjoyed your International Women’s Day and have a great weekend! Just a heads up… I have started that Derby post, so be looking for it soon!

All you need is Love…. Or Stupidity with an awesome friend!

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Life gets really busy and serious. It can be a dark tunnel to navigate. I have been fighting a bout of depression lately. It mainly has to do with wanting to have a baby and not being able to start trying. We aren’t fully financially ready, as well as, I’m taking some alcohol related classes that have me drinking every class and for homework. It is also daunting to think about all the decisions to make with a baby (breastfeeding, cloth diapering, Attached Parenting, Organic fabrics, glass bottles, un-medicated birth — just to name a few that I am looking into) The depression has been causing some tension between my husband and I, but it has also helped us work on our communication.

Though this has been a dark couple of weeks, I have had a shining light at the end of the tunnel, as well as, a light that occasionally shows up and walks beside me on my trip through this dark place. Occasionally, she leaves me with a little bit of her light when she leaves and often returns before the light she left me with has burnt out.

Ok, I have been taking in code time to give it to you in English. The shining light at the end of the tunnel is my mom and sister coming to visit in less than two weeks! I am so excited to see them. My mother and I have had a rocky relationship in the past, but the last year or so I have really felt us grow closer. I love my mom so much! I am so happy that I get to spend this time with her. I am also really excited that I get to have a stronger relationship with my mom. I am happy that I can pick up the phone and call my mom when I need to without thinking twice about it. When I was younger, I used to think twice about it and often wouldn’t call her. I am not completely sure what has changed to bring us closer. A lot of things have happened in both of our lives that has maybe opened both of us up for the relationship.

The light that shows up and walks beside me is my best friend, Steph. I have mentioned her before in my Marco Polo post. Stephanie always knows how to make me smile and she listens to my problems as petty as they may be. She never discounts my problems or feelings either. Trust me, this is something she could fully do, too. Her husband is stationed in Japan and she chose to stay here for a variety of reasons. She lives everyday without her husband and deals with problems that could be seen much bigger than mine and she doesn’t judge me. She always seems to know when I just need to vent and get stuff off my chest or when I really need help and advice.

I was really down on myself last night about feeling depressed and not being a good housewife and money. I was texting her about it. She sent me a message that at the time didn’t brighten me as much as it should have because I wasn’t open to the light and just wanted to be down on myself. But now that I am trying to dig myself out of the hole and out of the darkness and depression what she texted me really brightens my day. She texted me “…You aren’t a failure. You are one of the few people I look up to.” That small statement does make me feel like I am and all the work I do is worth it. Steph is a great friend that I am not looking forward to the day the Navy in one way or another rips us apart.

This Picture describes our relationship perfectly:

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She is the one person that lets me be stupid in a multitude of ways… Today, she told me I was acting stupid because I was being depressed and sort of picking fights with my husband. Her telling me that and forcing me to write a blog is helping feel better. The type of stupid we normally are is the silly stupid: the giggling about random things, playing Marco Polo in stores, fooling around at Walmart at 1 or 2 in the morning and the list goes on and on!

All I can say is I am truly blessed in the relationships I have in my life. I have an awesome husband, a fantastic best friend and my relationship with my mother is finally blossoming. I have a lot to be thankful for too: We have a roof over our heads, we were able to move out of a bad neighborhood to one that is a lot quieter and less stressful for both of us, we can pay our bills, put food on our table, enjoy a few hobbies and we love each other very much. Sometimes you need love to make you feel better. Sometimes you need stupidity and fooling around with a good friend. But it is an awesome feeling when you are able to get both at the same time!

Now, it is time to go cook my husband an awesome and healthy meal to come home to. I look forward to hearing your comments and/or questions.

With lots of love,

Kandi

Natural Drain Cleaning: Not for the Weak of Stomach!

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Things are slowly settling in our new home. I am extremely excited to tell you about all the things that I have done thus far, but that would be a 6 mile long post. I have decided to share with you one of my favorite natural cleaning/home improvement solutions. Now, I really must warn you that the photos are not very appealing.

We have all played with Baking Soda and Vinegar. My first experience with it was as a child. As a “science experiment” one summer, my mother helped me put some baking soda into a balloon and some vinegar in a bottle. We then carefully put the balloon’s end around the bottle’s mouth. After attached, she would let me lift the balloon to empty the baking soda into the bottle. This would cause a chemical reaction that produced a gas that would fill the balloon. Here is a video of that experiment!

If only I would have known then that those two ingredients and that chemical reaction would become my favorite natural cleaning solution! I have to admit one reason why this is my favorite is because I am still highly amused by this chemical reaction. From day one of moving in, our master bathroom sink drained really, really slowly. The speed of the water from the faucet was way faster than the water leaving down the drain. I needed to do something, so I looked up recipes for unclogging drains. I did a search on the internet or had already seen a recipe in my readings. I can’t remember for sure and I can’t find the exact page I found the recipe on, but this page has lots of good recipes, including the one I used.

Drain Cleaning Recipe

  • 1/2 cup of Vinegar
  • 1/2 cup of Baking Soda
  • A pot of boiling water

Pour the baking soda down the drain. Pour the vinegar down the drain and allow to bubble. Wait 15 minutes and flush with boiling water.

The Modifications I had to make:

  • Our drain plug doesn’t remove, so I had to pack the baking soda down by hand
  • Due to the wet nature of the drain, the baking soda doesn’t fall into the drain and packs pretty tightly at the top. To adjust for this I used a medicine syringe to squirt the vinegar down through it.
  • Also, squirted vinegar down the emergency drain to deliver it to the bottom of the packed baking soda.
  • I had to use way more than 1/2 cup of vinegar to dissolve all of the baking soda.
  • I had to do this three times for our sink. I think that waiting longer than 15 minutes would have helped.
  • When flushing with boiling water, start by pouring slowly directly or as directly as possible into the drain and about 1/4 –1/2 way through the pot dump the rest of the water without splashing it on you.
  • One more that I will discuss below.

Tonight, I had to do this again for our bath tub. I followed all of my modifications and got it completely unplugged the first time.

The last modification that no one warns you about is that the bubbling of the chemical reaction can cause the clog be pushed back to the top of the drain. So, I had to use tweezers to pull all this hair and gunk out of the drain. Luckily, we have a pair of old tweezers that we used for cleaning hair and animal fur out of the drains at our apartment. The gunk and hair I had to pull out is not pretty. The sink was not as bad as the tub. The tub was so bad that I decided to play the girl card and have my big, strong husband deal with the nastiness of picking it up in a bag to take to the garbage can. Luckily, the garbage is picked up in the morning, because that pile of hair was starting to remind me of a horror movie… LOL!

Here are the pictures:

Gunk from the Sink                                                        Tub with Horror Movie Hair
Gunk from the Sink                                                                       Tub with Horror Movie Hair

Well, I hope my adventure will help you with your clogged sinks. Tune in soon for more cleaning recipes I’ve been using and maybe a sneak peak at our kitchen. I might even include some other recipes I’ve been cooking up like homemade dog treats, granola bars, and body wash just to name a few. Have a wonderful day and don’t be afraid to leave some comments or questions!

Marco Polo

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Wow! It has been a bit since I’ve been able to write. I have been very busy with our move. I am very happy to report that we are officially completely moved out of our apartment and into our house that we are renting (We still have a lot of unpacking to do). I am very excited and I am the happiest I’ve been in a long time. But before I get to that I have a great story I have to share with you and I apologize for this post not being about derby.

Marco Polo

A few days before we got the keys to our new home, my best friend and I went to Target for me to get some decorating inspirations. When her and I go shopping, we tend to go our separate ways to look at things then come back together for a bit. To find each other, we recall the childhood game of “Marco Polo”. One will loudly say “Marco” and the other will call out “Polo” and the one that said “Marco” will walk towards the other one and repeat until we find each other.

Well, while at Target a little boy heard us “playing” and we heard him ask what was Marco Polo. Someone (not quite sure who) explained it to him, so he started yelling Marco to us and we would respond with Polo. We did this quite a few time before he actually found us. We didn’t realize he was really trying to find us. We started playing the game with him. We would kind of hide in different places in the store until he found us. He would yell “Marco” and we would reply “Polo.” He would run up find us and say “Found you” in the cutest voice ever and run away.

His mom was really cool about it. She laughed and thought it great we were having so much fun! She thought we were in high school not young women that are married. She said we would make great mothers with our spark to enjoy the simple things.

One of the best things about the whole thing was the Target we were at was being visited by corporate and all the big-wigs just laughed at us. They didn’t care. We also had many customers laughing at us and told us it was refreshing to see a simple childhood game being brought back to life. The thing I learned the most that day: Stop and enjoy the simple things in life. That little game with a little boy was more fun than anything I had done in a long time! The greatest thing about it: the little boy was so happy and hugged my friend and I twice before we left the store. I was actually a little sad to leave. I also regret not sharing any contact information with the mother, but then again that’s part of the magic. Maybe one day we will go back to that store and the game will start again without any planning.

Curious about some of the inspirations I got? Here are few:

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My bestie photo bombed my shower curtain photo. It’s ok. I ended up getting a different one (More on that in a later post). I did end up purchasing the Welcome mat. It makes me smile every time I enter my home!

Here a few more from later that day with my hubby:

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Doesn’t my hubby make a great model for that tray? I love the Teal birds and the Snow White Apple. I might be back for both of those when the house isn’t so chaotic with unpacking.

In my next post: I will share with you some of the new green solutions I have enacted in our new home. I am so excited to share with you! Please tune in shortly for that post.