International Women’s Day


I am bad at following holidays that are not national and usually lead to my husband having the day off, so I did not realize that it was International Women’s Day until the day was almost over. I would like to share a few of my views and my ironic day I had today.

First, my ironic story. My story started on Monday night. I got an uncomfortable pain in my lower right abdomen. I have gone off my birth control because I don’t want to be putting chemicals in my body that I don’t know what they are and because my husband and I would like to start trying for a baby, soon. I called my mother to ask if she had ever experienced pain during ovulation, and she said she had. I thought it was normal, so I took a Midol (it was really uncomfortable and I haven’t researched natural pain relievers yet) and went to bed with my heating pad.

The next day, the pain was really bad and I felt sick to my stomach. I texted my mom to see if she was ever nauseous and she said no and that I should go see a doctor. By the time I got home from my class, I was in even more pain and called the Nurse Triage Line that the Navy provides us after clinic hours. The nurse determined that I should go to the ER.

We spent three, almost four, hours in the ER. I was seen by two female nurses and a female doctor. They all thought it was my appendix. They decided to give me a CT Scan. They did a pregnancy test and it came back negative, but I still had questions and was told by one of the nurses that if I was pregnant, then it would have shown up, so I did the CT Scan despite having a bad feeling about it. Later, I asked the doctor who told me that it was possible for me to have a fertilized egg and not show up pregnant because a woman is not considered pregnant until a certain hormone shows up in her blood stream. That made me quite mad because I could have subjected our possible baby to radiation.

The radiation wasn’t actually necessary because the test resulted that my appendix was fine and that I have 2.3cm cyst on my ovary, which is detectable by an ultrasound. I was told by the ER doctor to follow up with an OB-GYN and released. I asked a few questions, but her answers were really vague and left me worrying.

The next morning, I tried to call my Primary Care Provider (Navy Speak for Primary Doctor, though sometimes our primary care providers are Nurse Practitioners), only to find out that my local Navy health clinic was in a state of emergency because their electricity had gone out, which had caused a whole boat-load of other problems. They weren’t giving out referrals for anything other than Urgent Care and I got the run-around a few times. It left me feeling frustrated and even more alienated from my body. I was finally told to call back the next day and they would get me a referral.

Today, I woke up in extreme pain. I could not stand, walk, sit or even lay down. Everything hurt and I felt like I was dying. After a few phone calls trying to get everyone to play nice, I was finally able to schedule an appointment with an OB-GYN.

I had my loving and supportive husband drive me to my appointment. My appointment was with a male doctor, who explained everything to me, and guess what was the final diagnosis. I’m ovulating! Eight years of being on the pill had alienated me from my ovaries so much that I didn’t recognize the pain (in my defense, I was still going through puberty when I was put on the pill, so I didn’t fully understand my body then).  I am one of the few women that experience severe pain during ovulation. Information that, if the ER doctor would have spent a little more time explaining to me, I wouldn’t have been so scared and freaked out (I have a huge fear of the unknown). Now that I know what the pain is, I can bear it a little easier. I know it is somewhat natural and part of the process for me to have a baby someday.

Update: Friday 9-Mar-12 – I am feeling a lot better! I am still a little sore in my right side, but I am able to function now.

Now for two of my views on Women’s Rights:

1. I believe women should have the right to make, on their own, any choices involving procreation. I am for birth control for the reason that birth control is often used to treat a variety of medical conditions involving the female body. I will probably go back on the pill after we have children, just to be functional when I ovulate, until I qualify to get a hysterectomy.  Though I do believe that if a couple is married, the father/husband should be consulted before an abortion is performed.

2. It frustrates me that, with all of the progress that we have made for women’s rights, it is often looked down upon when a woman chooses to stay home and take care of the household, possibly being a mother as well. I am a stay at home wife and I am often looked down upon by many people. I am a Home Consultant for Thirty-One Gifts, but my main priority (when I’m not in pain) is taking care of our home and my husband. I wish, with the progression of women’s rights, we could have the right to choose to stay at home or to go to work without judgment either way.

Well, I hope you enjoyed your International Women’s Day and have a great weekend! Just a heads up… I have started that Derby post, so be looking for it soon!


4 responses »

  1. Look up “slutwalk”, it is the ultimate on Women’s rights. They have an organization here too. I’m following it. P.S. You think ovulation is uncomfortable…. then I’m not even going to give you details of my first trimester.

  2. Seriously every woman’s body is different I have heard all the horror stories of pregnancy & labor & delivery. Don’t ever let anyone tell you what it will be like! Even though I had a difficult pregnancy with a “negative” outcome. I would have done it all over again if I had had the chance.

    A woman or a man for that matter should not be judged on their chosen path for life and family as long as they are productive and supportive of their family. I love you will be able to be a stay at home Mom and your future children will be much better off for it. Just look around at the people whose Mother’s did not take care iof them as children because she had to work or was too lazy and then look at the peple that had a parent at home to care for them and see who is the more productive member of society! Sometimes that parent may be a Grandparent but children raised in ahome where someone is there for them do much better generally speaking than those that don’t.

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